South Bay culture has seeped into my bloodstream in a most significant way. I just finished outlining at least 6-7 sessions worth of marriage counseling strategy. A great start. I have always been most drawn to couples counseling and have had some experience, but I have not until today sat down to outline a strategy. All the time here at South Bay we are talking about vision and leadership. As you may know, I am working 3 days a week now as a Marriage and Family Therapist Intern at a local Christian Counseling facility. I so enjoy the job I have and I am thrilled that God provided me a way to minister to those both inside and outside my church family through my practice.
I came here with a motivation to grow as a counselor. But what I didn’t come here with is an understanding of the importance of casting vision both for myself and for my clients. As I look back on my experiences so far with couples, what stands out to me is my lack of direction. I had a passive outlook on the direction of therapy. I may have planned for the next upcoming session, but I failed to create a structure or template for guiding this couple over the course of weeks and months. Part of the reason for that may have been that I didn’t ever know how each session would go, so I felt I needed to plan week to week to allow myself room to adapt. (Any counselor knows that the direction and priorities of therapy can change in a moment . . . you have to adapt within the context of your clients needs.) The other part was fear of being too directive, because people don’t change by being told what to do. But what happened is a lot of nothing. I think most clients sense a general lack of direction even if the sessions sometimes go really well.
What I have learned here during my time at South Bay is that when you cast vision, your people know where you intend to help them go. I am not doing their work, but I am casting vision for their work. . . and I need to tell them that. What you emphasize becomes part of who you are, and what those under and around you will be most influence by. You must emphasize the vision if you want it to be a motivating factor in what you do, and certainly if you want people to go with you somewhere.