Every couple months the staff wives at South Bay get together for breakfast. I say staff wives although the group also includes women who themselves work at South Bay as staff. We meet at someone’s house and each take turns bringing breakfast-y things. The guys have affectionately named it “Women’s Hour of Faith and Power.”
We are all busy, its true, but we prioritize spending time together and growing as women and as wives. We’ve been going through a book together that we finished today, and we’re getting ready to start another one, which I’m super excited about. It’s called “What’s it Like to be Married to Me?”
One way I am constantly challenged by Stacie, our lead pastor’s wife, is the way that she personally leads the way to new places of depth and authenticity. The title of the book we’re doing next makes my point. You don’t read a book like that unless you’re open to looking at yourself with a magnifying glass and see all the dirt! Often we give in to the desire to be seen as acceptable, and that shortcuts our willingness to really let people see who we really are. But you can’t experience true fellowship and intimacy with other people without really showing who you are!
Today we talked a lot about fear, and how it influences us . . . particularly in marriage. We spent time going around the circle and simply sharing what fears we experience in our personal lives. Some were silly phobic types of fears, and we laughed a lot. (During our time a huge bumble bee threatened to attack us as we sat outside in the backyard. Many of you probably know about my bumblebee phobia). We also talked about fears that are much deeper. Fears that seem to grip us from the inside and can often paralyze us if we aren’t careful to manage them well.
As I reflect on our time this morning, it was really good for me to hear each fear voiced aloud. I think fears tend to lose some of their power when we speak them out loud, into the light. I thought it was interesting that many of our fears overlapped a great deal, or had similar themes. There is comfort for me in knowing that many of my best friends are influenced by similar fears! Now we know how we can pray for one another and support each other better. Not to mention it just feels good to know that people know you.