I am filled to the top with awe and gratitude today for one particular aspect of my job. It may be my very favorite thing about what I do. At least today it is.
As a person’s therapist, there are certain responsibilities and certain limits that I accept. There are also tremendous blessings in that front row seat. I have realized again today how much weight my voice (and any therapist’s voice) has in a person’s life. Think about it. A therapy session is where a person is safe to be and say whatever they truly are. People tell me things they have never told anyone. I see the real, raw, uncensored version of who a person is. And I must say it is really challenging at times. What a misguided therapist can do with that power and influence is really scary. There is so much potential for harm and abuse.
Having seen all the dirt and mess in a person’s life, it is my absolute privilege and blessing to look them in the eye be the voice that affirms who they are as a person. To give them thoughtful, honest, and meaningful words that they often have never heard from anyone. I may say “You know, I want to tell you something I see in you.” I see this broken person look up at me, often through tears, and in their eyes I can see my words reach their heart. I can see them believe there is something good in them when all their life the messages they’ve received have been the opposite. They have a big fat zero in the affirmation column.
You are remarkably strong. You are delightful. You are not crazy. You make sense. You are a survivor. You are able to figure this out. You are selfless. You have so much to give.
To see someone believe this for the first time is one of the most rewarding things about what I do. Thank you God for this position of influence. Please continue to use me in whatever way you see best for the precious people you’ve brought to me.
As I am writing this I am hearing speak-back in my head from well-meaning Bible believing Christians I know personally who would say “But you don’t want a person to believe there is anything good in them, there is nothing good in us apart from Christ. You want them to see their need for Jesus and not feel good about themselves so they’ll see their own sin.”
If I respond to this now, the post will be too long and you probably wouldn’t have read it. (I don’t read posts that look too long either.) So I’ll post a part 2 in which I will respond to the Christian who may be prone to thinking this way.