Ella and I drove home from Panera the other night just in time to hear the last 3 songs in KRTY’s hot 9 at 9. Lady Antebellum was song number 3 with “Dancin’ Away With My Heart”. It’s about memories of a young high school love.I finally asked you to dance on the last slow song – Beneath that moon that was really a disco ball – I can still feel my head on your shoulder – And hoping that song would never be over – I brushed your curls back so I could see your eyes – And the way you moved me was like you were reading my mind – I can still feel you lean in to kiss me – I can’t help but wonder if you ever miss me I haven’t seen you in ages – Sometimes I find myself wondering where you are – For me you’ll always be eighteen and beautiful – And dancing away with my heart You headed off to college at the end of that summer – And we lost touch – I guess I didn’t realize even at the moment we lost so much
We’ve all got those memories. Those fiery first love relationships. We can still feel the flame burn in our heart if we choose to.
I really like the song, but songs like this one can be dangerous for married people, especially if for whatever reason you feel emotionally vulnerable already. We can romanticize those memories and pave the way for our hearts to wander back there again. It’s an easy thing to be mindlessly driving down the road and before you know it the words of a song have you thinking about a former relationship.
But heres the thing, it’s a choice we choose to make or not to make. We don’t have to let ourselves romanticize those memories or make something out of them. In our culture love is seen as a feeling that sweeps us off our feet. Something that we fall into. But it’s not. It feels that way sometimes, but love is so much more than that. Love is a deliberate decision to stay committed to one person for life. It’s a decision that’s made in the hearts of two people and sealed at the altar. It’s also a decision I am still making and will continue to make as the years pass by.
Some may say it’s harmless to reminisce. To look at old pictures or listen to music that reminds you of other relationships. Well maybe, maybe not. Is it bringing you towards your spouse or away? It may not lead to an affair, but is it leading you down the road of comparison or discontentment? Does it plant seeds of doubt? Do you wander “if only?” or “what if?”
All I’m saying is I will continue to choose to guard my heart. Not only against memories of old relationships but also against anything at all that may pull my heart away from my husband. We are committed for life. At the altar we said in our vows “I will never divorce you,” and we meant it.
Happy Valentines Day baby, my heart still belongs to you!