Just recently watched the music video of a song “Poison and Wine” by the Civil Wars. This song is interesting to me. Music, like all art is supposed to appeal to the emotions and intellect and humanity in all of us. This song definitely does that. An excellent piece of art . . . yet, it is so unsettling at the same time. I can’t say I “like” this song, but can say I appreciate it. It makes me really uncomfortable actually because there is such a sadness and emptiness that creeps out of it. It represents quite well the conflicting emotions and thoughts that exist in the hearts of so many people. So many marriages just day to day living under the same roof but completely missing one another. It makes my insides feel dissonance, which is obviously what the song is intended to do. Thats why I can appreciate it, but can’t say I like it. I want to climb into the video and have a heart to heart with these folks.
One of the most fulfilling aspects of my job as a counselor is to walk with couples step by step, helping them discover the motives of their hearts and figure out how they themselves are actually sabotaging the love they desire. To look a couple in the eyes and say “you guys have been through so much, but you can do this.” Their eyes light up, or at least look up, at the first glimmer of hope they’ve heard in so long. Often there is so much unresolved grief and pain from the past that it clouds their eyes and they can’t see clearly enough to understand what is driving them. Each day I pray that God will give me the discernment and wisdom I need, and that he will ultimately find a way to soften the hearts of hurting people. So much can happen when hearts start to soften! What a beautiful thing. I love what I do. I count it a ministry and blessing from God to have such significant influence in the lives of families and individuals struggling with life.